Guy Tips for Girls

Choosing a guy can be fun, but annoying. When you choose a guy, what do you look for? "swag", looks?Personality? Popularity?

Well let me tell you that "swag" isn't going to pay the bills in ten years. Go for guys who have a future set ahead of them such as: college plans, career, etc. Only one of these things are going to matter ten years from now, and that's their personality. What they are now is what they're going to be in ten years.

Here's a tip:

When I was younger, I "went after" guys like they were shopping malls. From my experience, when a girl chases a guy it makes them run away. Guys just absolutely LOVE to have a good chase!

Also, if he asks you out on a date but you don't really like him that much, be polite and don't say stuff and blow him off. Guys have feelings too. Say something along the lines of:

"Aww, that's really sweet of you, but I think we would be better off friends."

Here's another thing I've learned:

Communication is a major part in a relationship.

If you have a boyfriend, and you are going through a rough patch, communicate. Talk to each other,don't avoid each other because if you avoid one another, you avoid the problem, and if you avoid the problem, it never gets fixed and you will probably end in a horrible break up.

Lastly, don't go for guys who do drugs or drink. When people do drugs or drink it WILL ruin their lives down the road if it's not already happening.

When people drink or do drugs, it affects their behavior and you could get hurt if you're around them at a bad time or any time they have smoked stuff, plus it's not cool at all.

Good luck and don't ever give up!

Until next time,
Elizabeth

What's Your Self Esteem Like?

I'm fat, I'm ugly, I can't do anything right, why don't people like me? I wish I were skinnier! Do any of these statements sound familiar to you? Are you used to insulting yourself? Well I'm here to tell you that you are not the only teen or even adult who struggles with your self esteem. If you're a teen, you are going through so many changes in your life such as growing, moving place to place, school, or maybe your parents are getting divorced or have gotten a divorce. Teens all over America and other countries struggle with their looks, personality, or life.

If you want to build your self esteem, try this. Go into a bathroom or your room and look at your self in the mirror. Then, say these 4 things... Make a joke if you want :)

• (Your name here), you look fantastic and God made you just like He wanted you to look like
• I'm a beautiful/handsome guy/girl
• Dang, I'm lookin' pretty good today ;)
• Oh, I am so awesome!

Comment if you tried this! 

Girls, do you take a lot of pictures and post them on Facebook, Tumblr, MySpace, and Twitter? Do you try to have or get a boyfriend like "everyone else?" These things aren't quite normal I'm sorry to say! Yes, yes, taking pictures is really fun, but some things have their limits. Girls tend to try to be all that or at least act like they are, and I'm here to tell you that guys aren't impressed with it. I've been there and done that. If you want a boyfriend try this. 

When you wake up in the morning for school, instead of dumping a load of makeup on, only put a little let him see the real you. Then, when you get to school, hang with your friends and don't try to hang out with his (guys need their "guy time".)The most important thing to do is to let him come to you. If he's interested in you he will go for you. Now, back to the taking pictures part. Most girls do this because they're insecure, don't worry a lot of people are even adults! Try to just take ten pictures of yourself, then choose three of the best out of the ten you took. Also, when you take your pictures don't try to be all "sexy" or desperate looking. Most guys hate that as well.

Guys, do you try to show off to get girls? Do you obsess over sports or video games? Don't worry, lots of guys are like you! here are some tips: 

If you want a girlfriend, always act interested in them. For example when she says "I had the worst day!" don't say "Oh, I'm sorry!" you always want to ask her what happened so she can get it out. 

When it comes to video games and sports, don't sit and play video games all day, girls want a guy who is a hard worker and can earn a living one day. Sorry guys, you can't really earn a good living by playing games. Sports on the other hand are a great exercise and are good for you, but you can't do that 24/7 either always try to be interested in your surroundings and other people around you.  

XoXo,

Elizabeth 

Choosing a Career

Some young people in schools these days don't know what they want to be. That is okay if you are in around the 5th grade, but when you're in high school its time to start thinking about what you want to be.

First, pick a good quality about yourself. Ask yourself these questions: "What am I good at?" or "What do I like to do?" Whether it is sports or helping people there is always something you can do.

Then, figure out what you want to major in in college. Psychology/Mental Health, Social Work, Business, Culinary Arts, etc. Many colleges have a main "focus point" on what they teach, (i.e. VCU, (Virginia Commonwealth University) is known for being something to do with medical studies. It also teaches many other things such as Business and Culinary Arts.

Once you choose your major, start looking for colleges that will accept you or give you a scholarship. If you play a sport such as basketball or football and if you're pretty good there are a lot of schools that will offer scholarships in those fields.

Don't ever give up on your dream! Always pursue what is good.

*A special thanks to Google Images for the great pictures*

Getting Pregnant at a Young Age

Many girls will say they won't get pregnant until they're married or have a boyfriend. But that doesn't always happen.

I know girls I used to go to school with who were 13 and 14 years old and they were pregnant. The questions they always asked themselves were: "Should I get an abortion so my parents won't find out?" and "Who's going to take care of my baby if I can't?" Many of them did get abortions and were very hurt.

You never want to be stuck in this type of situation. When you get "that feeling" to do something wrong with someone, please save yourself and do not do it. You will highly regret it later.

Here are some questions you should ask yourself. Comment and answer If you want:



Is getting pregnant before you're married right?


Does God like it when we disobey his will?


Is this the right thing to do?


How old is too young?

*A special thanks to Google Images for the great pictures*

Meet My Dog Casper

Hey guys! I'm Casper. I will be 10 years old May 1st, 2011. I'm a Golden retriever and Yellow Lab mix. I live with my mom Elizabeth, my dad Matthew, my aunt Mary, and my uncle Al.

The things I love are those very soothing belly rubs, delicious rice cakes, hot dogs, of course, and reviving back massages.

 There is one other animal I love most: Mordecai. He's our backyard squirrel. He will just sit and watch me every time I go outside. Sometimes, I will chase him, but unfortunately he ALWAYS gets away and therefore wins. It makes my hair stand up on the back of my broad neck like never before.

Here he is the little thing! Grrr!

I also love cats. They make me soooo hungry even when it's not dinner time. I see those nasty green snake eyes and I think to myself..."Yummmy!" Pardon my dog language ;)

Also, there is Guss, he's my neighbor. He is a White Golden Retriever. He will come over to the fence and say "Come get me Casper!"I will bark back so loud that eventually I have to go inside, all because of him. He is the perfect dog. He is never muddy. He is always clean and fresh.

 But, look at me. I smell, I itch, and I sometimes let it rip. Deep down inside I love Guss. He's my best doggie friend in the whole world.

Do you imagine being a dog and how everything would be if you were a dog? Well lemme tell you from my perspective. It's not all that easy.

5:45pm: You're in the kitchen. It's dinner time. People are rushing back and forth. You are a dog. You get fussed at for begging for one little bite of steak. You get your big paws stepped on, You get shoved to the side, and when it gets loud you just wag your tail and stand by the back door, hoping and praying to go outside.

But deep in my heart, I love my family so much! They always feed and water me on time, let me go outside, play with me, give me belly rubs (ohh so nice!), and every now and then will feed me one bite of fruit. "Too bad its not steak!" I always think to myself.

Well it's time for me to go now. It's dinner time!

Adopted Into Loving Arms

Fourteen years ago on July 28, 1997 I was brought to America. I was born in Piatra Neamț, (P-a-tra knee-um-st) Romania, a small city three-hundred fifty miles from the capital city Bucharest. I lived in an orphanage for the first fifteen months of my life. Sometimes I wouldn't get enough to eat and I was very malnourished.

Piatra Neamt, Romania

 In July 28, 1997 I was brought home to live with my mom and dad. I had to ride on a plane 4,766 miles to get to where my landing was. When I got home, there was a bunch of people waiting for me in the front of my house with balloons, cards, and tons of welcomes.

As I grew up I was seen to be a very sad child. I was different from other kids. I didn't act like them a lot of the time.                                                                   
When I was about 5 years old, I started to be a very violent child. I would throw things such as, balls, rocks, wood, my toys and lots of other things. As I grew up, I went to doctors constantly. I've been to over 19 psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors. My mom had me seen by the biggest doctors names in VA and they diagnosed as lots of different symptoms, but none of them matched up right.

 Finally after 14 years of running place to place and violence, My parents went to the county for help. They sent us to a small place call The Attachment and Trauma Institute. There, I was diagnosed with Attachment Disorder, which means "A behavioral disorder caused by the lack of an emotionally secure attachment to a caregiver in the first two years of life, characterized by an inability to form healthy relationships. Other common symptoms, especially in children, are poor impulse control, chronic anger, and antisocial tendencies." There, an in-home therapist came to my house at least every other day, if not every. I was told that "everything will be okay." not "everything is probably going to be okay." In as little as 4 months I was "fixed." That means, no more screaming and yelling, throwing things, and hitting people. I was free of violence.

My life has changed in amazing way. The therapist didn't do this miracle, my parents didn't do this miracle, Jesus Christ did this miracle! He has a perfect time for everything. He has plans for your and my life. He has rescued me from what could have turned in to a total nightmare.

   I could have been in jail many of times, but Jesus didn't let it happen. I could have been put on foster care, but Jesus didn't want me there. He wants me here so I can tell you about my life and how He has helped me tremendously. I was rescued from the depths of despair and my life turned around completely all because of Jesus Christ.






*A special thanks to Google Images for the great pictures*

Relationships

 Do you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? If you answered no, don't worry about "needing" one.

People sometimes think that if they don't have a bf or gf they aren't normal. I am single myself, and to tell you the truth, not everyone is normal. Everyone is disfunctional is some way or another. People often are afraid of being alone, not having anyone to be with or around, or etc. Say you are at a movie premiere, and your favorite celebrity comes strutting down the red carpet, and say that he or she has a bf or gf. You will tell yourself, "Oh they are so pretty and famous because they have the looks and the partner." That is bad thinking you need to self talk yourself a little like this.

Brain: "Sarah, you don't have a bf!"
Sarah: "This stinks! Susie has one. Brady has a gf. Why me?"
Sarah: "Wait, I know deep down inside that I am somewhat normal"
Brain: "Susie is way prettier than you, plus she has a bf."
Sarah: "I don't care brain, I'm a beautiful person just like Susie, and I don't have to have one to be normal."
Brain: "Uhh this is a battle that can't be won. I give up!"

In that short skit, Susie doubted herself. She didn't think she was normal because she didn't have a bf. Even if you don't have a bf or a gf you are better off that way. Relationships can cause a lot of trouble that can lead to horrible things in the end. If I were you, I would stay single and live life without any more problems that it already brings.